Uncovering Long-held Limiting Core Beliefs

Those mistaken beliefs are like beach balls you're holding under the water. It's easy at first but gets really hard over time. Let them come up and pop to the surface so you can give them the attention they need to be healed. They only come up when you are ready to look at them and heal them once and for all. It's time to stop pressing them back down and suppressing your true self, free of these mistaken beliefs.

You have been building castles in the sand by not allowing yourself to be all that you truly are. A castle built on sand will eventually crumble. In order to know your true self you must excavate down into your deep layers of subconscious programming to unearth the real you. Who you were before you bought the lies you were told is waiting to be found like a treasure buried in the sand.

Answer these questions to begin the search for your hidden treasure:

1) What are 3 memories I have from each childhood/adolescence/early adulthood where I learned a life lesson by either observing or participating? How did that make you feel? (i.e.: my mom was really late picking me up from school and I remember feeling like I was abandoned and no one loved me, my core belief became that I am unloveable and I will be abandoned)

2) What are some family beliefs that were passed down to me? Hint: it's often based in a saying or figure of speech that you heard repeatedly i.e.; “money doesn't grow on trees”, or “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”. What core beliefs did you take on due to hearing those phrases?

3) What common themes exist in your stories? What “lessons” do you see repeating in relationships or places where you are stuck?

4) Now for each one ask yourself, are these core beliefs TRUE? Are they serving me? Am I ready to let them go and replace them with new and true core beliefs?

Finding the Belief Beneath the Feeling and Choosing Again

Every single one of us has misguidedly chosen some limiting core beliefs about ourselves early on in life. It is these beliefs that run our adult life. Everything in your life is the result of your thoughts and your thoughts are informed by your beliefs. So, that means that if you want a different outcome - a different reality - you must change your beliefs about who you think you are.

This process will help you to identify core beliefs and remove subconscious blocks/obstacles on your path.

Important note: this is a process of self-forgiveness of misperception of believing you are something you could never be. It is about forgiving yourself for misunderstanding the Truth of who you are. It is NOT to excuse, negate or dismiss the abuse or downplay the wrongs that have been done to you by others, especially as an innocent child. Rather, it is a freedom fogivensees process of Self so that you can begin to release the past and choose to create the future from a free space unfettered by the past. It ultimately begins and ends with you because you are only responsible, in charge of and accountable to yourself.

Summer of Self-LOVE 6 Week Transformation 2017 Written and Created by Natalie Reimer Anderson All Rights Reserved

Chase, Challenge, Choose, Change Method

HOW TO TRUST YOUR TRIGGERS TO RECOGNIZE AND RELEASE LIMITING BELIEFS
Created By Natalie Reimer Anderson

Chase: When you are triggered by someone, this is a sign of a self-belief that is coming up to your awareness because it wants be healed. The trigger is drawing your attention to an unhealed aspect of your shadow-self that is being revealed. But be alert because your ego will rush to blame and make it about someone else. It’s not. It’s about you and what you truly desire to heal. Trust your triggers as gifts to greater freedom.
To be clear, this is not to condone someone’s bad behaviour or to pretend that you are not allowed to be upset (spiritual bypassing) but rather, to take full responsibility for how you let it affect you in the future. To take back your power to heal this incorrect self-belief that is being revealed you must take full responsibility for how you have allowed this to affect you and what you will do to heal it.

I call this step “Chase” because these triggers come and go frequently and quickly, rising to the surface until the ego stealthily pulls them back down to hide them again. If you want to heal these self-beliefs you must pay attention to the triggers and patterns that surface in every moment.

Challenge: In this step you ask yourself; what is the belief I have about myself that this person/event is showing me? What have I made this mean about myself? When did I begin to believe this about myself? Note: It was likely ‘installed’ between 1-7 years of age when your subconscious mind was most impressionable. Think way back. Sometimes it helps to remember the familiar feeling that links these two events. After you’ve identified it, then ask; is this belief true or is it possible that my child-self misinterpreted the situation to mean something that wasn’t true about myself? Do I want to continue to believe this about myself?

The thing we have forgotten is that our beliefs are choices and not absolute truths. This includes our inherited and cultural beliefs. They are malleable and up for debate in every moment and as new evidence presents itself. We have forgotten that we chose most of our beliefs about ourselves at a very young age and we continue to choose to believe them as adults without realizing or reviewing them. Due to time passing and our human tendency to confirmation bias, we forgot that it is we who have chosen to believe things about ourselves that just aren’t true. And like a bad detective we have lived our lives looking for only the evidence to support our mistaken belief. But what if they are not? Would you choose to believe something else? You can do that at any time.

Choose: Step three is to do just that. Make a new choice! After you have determined that what you have believed for so long about yourself was just a choice that you have reinforced through your behaviours, you can begin to choose what you would like to believe. Here you ask yourself; what do I want to believe about myself? What self-belief can I choose to support my highest expression and best life? How can I begin to look for the evidence of my new belief being true?

Change: This step will repeat as necessary until you have reinforced your new belief. Every time you see even the slightest evidence to support your new belief being true, celebrate it and write it down in an evidence journal. Soon you will have a mountain of evidence and will begin to live your new beliefs into being thereby creating a new reality for yourself with your new healthier self-perception. And almost as if by magic, your relationships will also transform with a depth of compassion and allowance for those who come into your life. Your triggers will become fewer and further between and you will have greater freedom and inner peace.

“Nothing real can be threatened, nothing unreal exists. Therein lies the peace of God.” ACIM

“The miracle is a shift of perception.” ACIM