How to Deal With Difficult People Who Have Intentionally Broken or Disregarded Your Boundaries: 

First continue to set your boundaries clearly and consistently. Sometimes repeating it is helpful while still holding your firm boundary. 

Second if necessary explain why. This is only reserved for somebody who deserves explanation, especially if they’re taking it personally and you want to maintain a healthy relationship. 

Third set consequences -for example say “if you continue to comment on my lifestyle choices I will not be able to spend time with you anymore” 

Fourth recognize that some people will not change or be receptive and you may need to ask yourself and decide which boundaries are more important, where you can compromise, and if the relationship is of value going forward and to what extent. 

Fifth walk away if you need to, you can either limit or cut off all contact. There may be people, circumstances or situations that are unhealthy and it doesn’t work for you to compromise. You may need to walk away and mourn the loss. Do it with love, dignity and for self-preservation in mind.

Lastly if needed, make a list of your non-negotiables. What are your deal breakers? Have you stopped to think about or to express them? It’s best to ponder these questions because much of our boundary work only becomes clear after they’ve already been violated. Be prepared so you can be confident in expressing your will.

ARE YOU READY TO CHOOSE YOU?

Think of three ways that you have stood up for yourself and feel proud of this.

Think of three times that you have not. How did this make you feel?

Choose three specific boundaries that you know will enhance your life and decide to enforce them now.